In home separation? Off / On? Still WAW? Dunno

[breakdownbill]

Hi YC

Just catching up, I can see what you are getting at by being more enthusiastic and appreciative of her hobby (dancing) and being more loving.

But I've been doing that for months since the bomb and all that I got out of it was being walked over.

I don't want to be enthusiastic anymore about her still being in contact with the OM, even if they are just dancing. It makes me feel uncomfortable, disrespected and validates my lack of trust in my wife.

I don't want to go back to being that doormat in this cycle.

I'm going to focus on my course, spend as much time with the kids and get paperwork prepared.

My W hasn't made a single concession in the things that would bring me closer to her, whilst I've gone through all this.

I'm focusing totally on me and the kids now.

Bill