W has been calling after 9:00pm to tell S goodnite. When I say after 9 I am talking about 9:20 or 9:30. Not every nite but it has turned into 50% of the time now.
9:00 is the bedtime that we set while we were together.
I have been hinting that she should call earlier by letting her know that he is already in bed, when she calls late.
She then asks if he is asleep and I say no because he isn't. I then let her say goodnite.
She called tonite at 9:40. He was already asleep and I let her know that. She then says that I should have had him call her before he went to bed.
I tell her that "I will not call her at his bedtime unless he asks to do so. I put him to bed at 9:00 and I would like your calls to be before or at that time. It is something that has bothered me and I should have said something sooner."
She says that she works until after 9:00 on the days that I have him. And that she has him call me at bedtime on her days.
I say "yes, you are right, but I call before 9:00pm and he is busy playing and he says he will call me when he gets in bed."
This is usually around 10:00. I don't have a problem when she sets bedtime at her place, but I do call everynite before the bedtime we set together.
She says "whatever, have him call me in the morning".
We did not get heated, but I could tell she was ticked.
