I was keeping quiet until now, and I just want to brush some points:
Originally Posted By: AJM
Full disclosure: My daughter doesn't talk to me. She struggles to remain angry. Seems she has her mother to help (guessing based on conversations.)
That ^^^^^^ is my D14, right now. Actually, for at least a year.
I use the term "co-dependent" when I talk about D14 and her mom. I hate using that term because I feel people think I'm using it as an excuse. The best I can say is, it took two years of being with my W before I spent more time sleeping in the marital bed, then D14 did. My W appears to have completely oblivious to the conversations that D14 was exposed to, growing up.
Now, over the past 2 plus years, D14 has been with my W during the times W was having discussions with her friends about leaving me. D14 spends more time hanging out with OM1 and OM3 than with me.
For all intents and purposes, D14 no longer speaks to me. I have tried reaching out a few times over the past couple months, and every time I get the same type of curt, terse response (if any) that I get from my W.
My W's response to my queries about this? D14 is a teenager having teenager behaviours and "this will pass".
I can be emotionally dead and agree with people who might suggest that and completely and totally off the mark that D14's attitude towards me has anything to do with W.
I guess...
Parents influence their children. Not just by words, but moreso by the parents actions. Kids watch and study their parents and their parent's behaviour towards others, including their spouses, Xs, etc...
I'm guilty of being that example at times, as well...
