I am so proud of how you handled yourself for the golf "date"!
I read somewhere (sometimes it is overwhelming how much stuff I try to read!) that MCLers are attracted to the LBS's back. The less we pursue them, the more interested in us they become. So far, I have found this to be very true.
There were SO many times that I wished I could go back in time with the knowledge that I have now. I wish I was aware of DB prior to the bomb. I've beaten myself up over it many times. But now I've accepted that the MLC would have happened no matter what. I didn't cause it and I couldn't prevent it. It is about him, not me.
All we can do is make ourselves better - not for them, but for us. I think I have spent too many years living for other people anyway, and it turned me into someone I not only didn't recognize, but ultimately didn't like very much.
You are an amazing lady too... Don't ever forget it !!!
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."