I see. Yeah, I guess this state of "limbo" is self-imposed. I have to move one from there myself and take charge of what I can. I'll be living with D8 and taking care of her, taking her to school, helping her and pretty much always be there for her. I am trying to make sure she has as good a home as possible so she doesn't feel the absence of her mom too much. It's going to be difficult for her as they used to be very close, much closer than we are, although after the last 2 months together in my country, I think we've come a long way.
With regards to boundaries there is a possibility that she is seeing her EA again, after 2 years apart. In fact, I suspect that HE is why she chose to live in this city, but i could just be paranoid. In any event, in another talk the topic came up and we agreed not to introduce D8 to a string of girl/boyfriends.
Thanks for the feedback.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then