"So I guess what you are saying is that limbo/uncertainty for me is better than to get her to eventually say/do something under pressure, which might end up being final?"
No you are getting the two things mixed up. By not bringing up a R talk, it doesn't mean that you are in limbo. You set a course of how your life is going to be WITHOUT your W in the picture. For example, you haven't stated what your concrete plans are in terms of your daughter. Who is going to be watching her and helping her in school? You set the schedule and tone for the things that YOU have control over.
You don't have any control over what your W does or doesn't do, so do what you can on your own. She probably doesn't even know what's going on with her.
The issue with 'boundaries' comes up when there's someone else involved. Your W doesn't have that going on as far as you know.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
