Should I initiate R talk?

[Denver_2010]

Just something that I wanted to note here as a reminder because it is so true. Nothing positive can happen until negative emotions disappear. Then nothing further can happen unless friendship developed. Only then can romance and recommitment occur. As those things happen, growth of self should be happening and most likely is happening. As people come out the other side, they really are better for it, no matter how painful that learning and growth can feel at the time.

Hi KD,

I came across this as i was going through your sitch (it's quite long so I'm not through it yet). It was written in March 2011. I was just wondering if you still felt that way.

Don't know about KD, but I certainly agree with that statement 100%.

Sorry you are here Arsene. You are getting good advice. Give her space, GAL, and do your best to detach. Patience and time are the two keys to DB, IMO. It will take a lot of both.

I hope that you have seen the list of 37 DB ideas to follow. I think that you can find them pretty easily if not.

As to your question, listen to Bond... do not initiate R talk with your W. That is pursuit. Avoid that at all costs, because it is pressure. And... pressure is not going to help your cause. It will only push her farther away.

Keep your head up, stay positive, and take care of yourself. You have a long road ahead of you.

Denver