Should I initiate R talk?

[Arsene]

Hi everyone,

I started a new thread for this one but feel free to check out my other thread and my sitch.

Now, I've been dark for 5 days, to try to sort our how I feel about all of this and I think I want to initiate R talks with W upon my return from darkness.

The reason for this is that since the separation (which was announced via email while I was on a 2 month holiday back home with D8) we haven't talked about what we were doing and why. When I got back (7 days ago), I told W I wanted to talk about it and she first asked me if it was necessary. She then said that she was ready to talk. This scared me and we ended up avoiding it.

Now what I want to ask her is if this is a Healing Separation, a trial separation or just a preparation for Divorce.

I'd like to recommend we structure this separation and make it a Healing Separation.

http://www.noeticus.org/uploads/Handout-Healing_Separation_Explanation.pdf

As far as I understand this is a working separation in which both partners invest in personal growth to help them build a different healthier relationship.

I also want to give her the above handout so she can have a good idea of what I'm asking for.

Then i want to set some boundaries for that separation.

I want to tell her that this separation should be for 6 months initially and that this can be renegotiated at any time.

I want to set some weekly scheduled time we can spend together as Quality Time and as Family time.

I'm not going to approach the sexual issue at this time. I figure if it comes up we'll see.

I want to tell her that I'm going to seek counseling and will suggest she does as well and perhaps even couple counseling.

I want to tell her that I will not be seeking a relationship with others and will remain sexually and emotionally monogamous.

I will outline our living arrangements which are that me and D8 will live in the house while she lives in a boarding house and she has full visiting rights.

Now, should i do this? If yes, how should i approach it? Should i just send an email with the handout attached and wait to see what she says? Should i bring it up in conversation?
If no, why not? how can I get a sense of what's going on, of what I'm working with?

It's just that i feel powerless right now and i would like to feel like there is understandable structure to all of this.

Thanks for your advice