wow, spot on advice 2thepoint. Not to hijack, but im getting wound up and mine has only been 5 weeks. Im doing it right and doing it for me and nothings happening, but what great advice to hear that you might wanna look around and see how long some others have spent putting things in order.
Fightfire: A couple of months is a drop in the bucket really. Especially if everything you say you believe about marriage is true. While it may be hard for us to understand....in the grand scheme of marriage for life, how is 6 months...a year...even two years that big of a deal? I dont go around trying to dispense specific advice to someone on message boards....but from one to another i'd say the first thing your gonna have to work on is giving up control. This isnt yours to dictate what happens and maybe im typing that for me as much for you, but until you figure out your not running this deal its gonna be a much tougher trip for you.
I will tell you from my own perspective the two most difficult things to do are to accept you only control you, and secondly to do nothing. In relation to your spouse, right now...do nothing, only work on you. If you can get a handle on those two you'll be well on your way. Good luck
