How many licks does it take...?

[bustorama]

Yeah, the perception of the LBS is just as skewed as that of the WAS after the bomb -- often, for months thereafter. It's like a collusion of lies and half-truths. Then, usually the LBS begins to wake up to the truth a bit earlier than the WAS, hopefully, but often not, without resentment.

Both the book and the men's group sound like interesting propositions. When would the men's group be starting? I think you'd be great in that role.

The cards and mackerel meal sound great. Especially the tequila shots. I had flight of tequila tasters the other day. Or maybe it was 2 flights? There was turbulence thereafter.

I'm glad you went back to the mountain bike. Not just for the riding but for exposing yourself to the potential discomfort of talking about the sitch. Take it by the horns, 2thepoint. Confront your brutal reality right through to the other side.

at the invitation of my W, we went to the gym to hang by the pool with her and some close family friends. I should have known better!

In which ways do you mean that?

BTW, what exactly is the 'public' status of things? Do your close friends know what is up? Family? What is public knowledge and what is not? And why?

she says, "we need to get moving on selling our house."

Was this the first time this was mentioned explicitly during the last 10 months? I don't recall it having been an issue/goal before but maybe I missed it?

It is clear from this discussion that after 10 months post bomb, 8 months since I moved out and 5 months since her near death experience, that she is not moving any closer to considering a R. In fact she seems more intent than ever in moving on. She is also a few short weeks away from her planned visit with the boys to see her family; minus me!

Yeah, man. Sounds like that is your brutal reality. So what is your plan to prevail over the next couple of months? =)

[/quote=2thepac]It has taken me a long time to reach this stage of renewal and acceptance. It just sux to have all this work amount to squat as it relates to my W.[/quote]

Yeah, I know all the work you have put into things. Keep renewing yourself. It's really about you now, always has been, but especially now.