Originally Posted By: MrBond
What did you write to her?

Based on your previous posts, it really does seem like while you want your M, you don't want to put the effort into it, or at least hadn't wanted to in the past.

Your W has actually told you what she needs and wants and yet for some reason, you don't put the effort into it. She wants physical love and affection for example. Well if you're not interested in giving it to her, then another guy will. If you want your M to survive, you better learn how to get your mojo back.

She told you that she feels invisible. You said you tried complimenting her and then stopped over time. That's just plain being lazy. If you don't want her to leave, compliment her. Tell her how much brighter your day seems with her in it. She wants validation that she matters. That's why she goes to the forums. She wants to know that she has worth because you have (from your lack of attention) made her feel worthless.

Have you read the 5 Love Languages? If not, read them.

In terms of the habits like complimenting her, etc. You keep that up on a regular basis and it will become a good habit where you won't even notice you putting any effort into.

If you have issues with the bedroom, go to sex therapy or read about ways to pleasure your W physically.

Your situation is so fixable it's laughable.

But detail what you wrote to her here.


True,

His problems are easy, and he is going to be alot happier if he does what he's supposed to. A really selfish person would not even realize how much spending that small amount of time and effort would benefit even themself.