An Unexpected Journey: Chapter Four

[AJM]

Hey GM, if I came across as saying you are wrong, I apologize for that. I'm not saying that at all, but I am asking you to consider how you come across.

My .02 worth is that the parents BOTH have personal responsibility in their personal relationships with their children. If the welfare of their children is of concern, they will learn to RESPECT the other parent's relationship with the children, BUT NOT INTERFERE. If we end up interfering, we end up taking emotional resonsibility for our kids, even the WAS, and that is not our job.

Interfering would be projecting your feelings on the kids IMHO. It can do damage. Consider that your kids love you both regardless of your actions.
Is it possible to NOT project some of your feelings that way? Of course not. But as you're deciding what you are going to portray to them, consider how that looks to them and the long term implications.

I agree you should come here and vent and it was never my personal intent to dissuade you from that. I also agree it isn't easy. Been there and done that. Still living it and will for a very long time I'm sure. I know the mistakes I've made with dealing with my kids and the situation. There weren't many in my opinion, but the ones I did make are likely going to stick for years with the kids...

Being you, being a mother, and not sharing some of your hurt with family is not easy. It's human and it is what we are. But we do need to consider if we add to the hurt or not for the kids. We can make it worse for them and I'm pretty sure when you finish grieving you won't be happy with yourself if you do. That doesn't seem the kind of person you come across as.

I don't think you need to encourage their relationship at this point, but it wouldn't be right to hinder it either would it? What would motivate you to do either, right?

Peace,
AJ