Doing it because you respect yourself, respect your relationships, respect your SO. Is healthy.
Yep.
Originally Posted By: Harrier
I would also submit that 99% of them did try other things first.
Yep.
Originally Posted By: Harrier
Lastly, this may get your W back ...
Yep.
Originally Posted By: Harrier
... but it's really no way to have a marriage. IMO.
Yep.
DBing is whatever works.
Once the affair is over and the withdrawal and grieving process for the adultery partner complete, then a differnt approach is required to restore love, trust and intimacy, and move from strength to strength thereafter.
My wife's A ended some time in July 2009. Funnily enough, she has also stopped acting like a vile piece of slime and has once again become the wonderful woman I fell in love with all those years ago. If I were to behave with "gamesmanship" now it would be absurd. There is nothing that I have to take a "strong stand" against.
Denver (remember this is his thread) will find that in his own journey no doubt as he and his wife work their way out of the place they're in right now. Nowadays I focus on being an alpha male and speaking my wife's love language as much as possible, something I need to do more of while I think about it.
Anyway, Denver this thread is all about you and we would love an update.
best, GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
