Yesterday, when W got home, and I asked her how her day was, she started giving me the play by play....I did this, then that, etc etc. I said, you don't have to give me the play by play, I was just asking a general question.
This morning, I see a contract on our counter than has OM's signature on it dated yesterday. Somehow this wasn't listed in the play by play...imagine that. So like I said previously, she's going to do whatever she wants and either omit or hide interaction with OM. I've got to surrender to it and let her do her thing. I actually read something this morning that was right on..."People ultimately do what they want to do." She went on to say it didn't matter if it was right or wrong, who it hurt, or what we thought. That really hits home, and makes you realize why detaching is so important.
Once we're both off the phone this morning, she gives me the "hey, you weren't home when I got here, where'd you go?" I said, "I just went out for coffee." And then I get the "With who?" I started to think of that analogy someone wrote up about being outside the castle, having a picnic, and the spouse tip toeing out to see what was going on. No sudden movements....a little mystery, a little fun....no sudden movements.
Note, I'm not sure "OM" is the right term for the guy in this case, but given the lack of clarity of the situation, and the sneaking around related to it, I'm going to stick to it for the time being.
