more turtles by my side...

[vera be fierce]

My stbx is not in a known or open A (probable EA) and my coach suggested "using him for my own pleasure" and telling him it was no big deal, and to be more playful in interactions. (this was before he filed for D). So, another tick for that line of advice here.

I actually got the same advice as you and Brit from Cheryl.

And your husband was still known to be in an active affair??

Sorry, I'm not familiar with your sitch, RoRo.

Yes.

Wow. I'm stunned that this is the advice from the coaches.