And in Virginia, if you have sex with your partner, it is considered forgiveness, and the whole affair is forgiven, up to that date.
This is true in many (most?) jurisdictions. It's considered forgiveness, and tacit approval of an open marriage, and nullifies any infidelity charges as grounds in "fault" states. It's considered "Condonation" IF and ONLY IF you return to the marital bed and even then,
it only prevents the LBSer from throwing the affair in the face of the former WAS, LATER-like years after you have supposedly gotten over it or worked thru or
AND OR forgiven it. Once it IS actually truly "forgiven", most mc's say it's supposed to be gone...finito...
It's not to make the LBS withold forgiveness; it's designed so that a WAS spouse who screws up (for whatever reason), and cheats but then comes home and works it out==and renews the marriage,
doesn't have it come back to haunt them years later. That way, It's not a "secret weapon" for the LBS to eternally have "in case things don't work out" the exact way the LBSer wants. It's not actually "forgiveness" per se.
Sorry if that's not clear but I can't think of another way of saying it without posting an actual case and that will bore you A LOT...
Starsky
25,
I was speaking only in the legal sense (as was the poster to whom I was responding); not sure where all this "throw in the face" emotional rant came from, but this seems to be a constant trigger with you.
We weren't advising anything different from what any good family law attorney would tell them. Christian, marital "forgiveness" is a completely different topic.
