The dance with your wife vs 38 weeks of very important training.
IMHO. Training should win out.
Throw yourself into it. Any extra time you have. Should be to get a little exercise in and time with your children.
This will remind yourself that you should not lose yourself in your marriage.
This is really a great time to drop the rope. Step back from the drama. Truly work on yourself. D and S will watch this and see that you are working hard at getting ahead in life and taking time to be with them. At the same time prepare for the outcome of the D. Learn and do the work for what is needed. This is extremely important.
If your wife comes at you with relationship talks to drag you back in.
Tell her.
"I am not interested in a R talk at this time."
Keep doing that over and over until her actions equal wanting to work on the marriage.
Ie. She stops dancing at that place where OM is.
Let her figure out what is disrespectful to the marriage and correct it.
Since it is her actions.
Or if she comes at you with D.
You have your paperwork lined up. You know what is going to happen.
So you say.
"I have prepared for this." She will say how she thinks its going to happen. Then you tell her how it will happen. And let her lead on it.
Or 38 weeks of limbo for her while your working away at getting ahead.
You have done enough talking. Showed your emotions. What has it gotten you?
Exactly.
So concentrate on yourself and your schooling and your children.
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