more turtles by my side...

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you whistling' at me KD???

too bad there was just s and mil - no sexy guys in equivalent sexy suits...

maybe it's time to head to the public pool, ya know - except they are too too young there!!!

oh yes. i am getting cool and detached!! soon i'll be as cool as you!

Salute!! memo received.

oh btw


"It is my opinion that both Zig and Brit were "deemed" candidates for this type of "do something different" approach. I suspect because of their detachment."

thans for this - it gave me a boost of encouragement - sorely needed...


and this

And I think the conversation may have lead into a direction that really got away from what Zig was doing based on a conversation with a coach and then her simple post of suggesting that she should pat her H on the rump as we left the door to be with OW.

okay - i think we've come full circle - was waiting to see if anyone was going to even see that.

i think the above triggered off a great discussion that many have benefited from, at least that is what it seems like.

seems like i should make more provocative statements like that to see what comes up - sure stirs things up and brings everyone out.

hmm... what could my mischievous little mind come up with next?

also one thing i would like to point out here - what i did that night which led to me and h spending it together - happened just after a similar thing i did. it's back in my thread but i'll write it again here. he was going on and on about how 'you need all the help and support i can give you through the d and i promise i'll do that for you" crap, and i interrupted him, rather fed up and said "h - come over here, give us a kiss and off with you" the same kind of flippant attitude that i expressed when i said "pat on the rump"

i was NOT expecting even the kiss - which i sort of stopped, patted him on the cheek and said ok off you go...

neither was i expecting the look of utter shock on his face when i said "you better be okay with this and not have any expectations" .

nor the determination with which he proceeded - it was not an immediate thing - it was over an hour later - he never backed out at any point even though i asked him three times if he was really okay to proceed.

when i told my coach about it (she had said to me that i should allow him to make mistakes with me) her response was - if that's not a big huge mistake, i don't know what is.

her point being that the more little and big mistakes he makes, the more uncomfortable he possibly becomes in his r with ow and the possibility that he starts really questioning what he is doing.

and the result?
h has adamantly said to me that he will not consider the possibility of the possibility of talking about r ever since the BD.

the day after , he said to me - i saw the possibility of us being together again.

albeit it freaked him out bad - but he saw it and funnily enough - i didn't.