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[zig]

busto - that's not a very correct analogy about what brit and i are doing.

this idea that we are "seducing " them away is a little one-sided.

when i asked my coach about how to approach that she said - throw a little hint and see if he takes you up on it.

then you make it d@mn d@mn clear that he better understand that this was no strings attached and that he better NOT have any expectations. that i was only doing this because we had good sex together, i hadn't in a bloody long time and needed some, and that's all there was to it.

so this idea that h was getting the goods is backwards.

i was getting the goods!! and i was really clear on it. the next morning, it was h who was seriously messed up - and admitted that it really f'ed him up. i looked him straight in the eye and said - we can't be doing this if you get messed up about it - i thought i made that really clear.

so slightly - or rather VERY different picture from what you guys are trying to portray this is about.

i wanted to add this here, before the discussion gets any further, to ensure that what your stand is against - is not exactly what either brit or me are doing.

i told h earlier. i don't choose to go outside this r to have my sexual needs met. not until a divorce is final. you as my h are the only one who can meet them.

that^^^ was from my IC the week before!!! she said - use it as material to see where you and he are at. i found out where i was at, and h sure did too - but not what either of us expected, i think.

as a warning to anyone reading this and thinking they want to try it - you absolutely cannot do this until you are detached enough. it will mindf^^k you otherwise!!


zig