Kimmerz, Your posting about your xh and his possible emotional trauma made me think about a thread I posted many, many years ago. I hope you don't mind, but I'm posting the link here and maybe it will help you and others along the way.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
