I've read some posts here and Im a little disappointed in what's going on here.
Though the postings are correct in being a positive role model for our children in the face of divorce, there are always two sides to every coin. There's always what you're " supposed to do", and then there's "reality" of each personal situation we're involved in with our ex spouses.
What I saw was GM venting about what was going on, and then in response was told she was personally responsible for the outcome of the relationship between her children and their father. That she's projecting her "abandonement issues" on to her children and that is causing problems. That she holds the key as to the quality of the relationship her children have with their father.
My .02 worth is that the parents BOTH have personal responsibility in their personal relationships with their children. If the welfare of their children is of concern, they will learn to RESPECT the other parent's relationship with the children, BUT NOT INTERFERE. If we end up interfering, we end up taking emotional resonsibility for our kids, even the WAS, and that is not our job.
What role does the WAS play in their relationship with their children when they leave?
What is the WAS personal responsibility as a parent in leading a positive relationship with their children?
We come here to vent, and spew and say things that we really need to say in search of some support and validation from people that are walking or have walked the same path. When venting, things come out harshly, because we're fired up about something and need to let it out.
Who are we to assume the what we expresses here is how we speak and express ourselves to our children?
