...when there is active infidelity going on -- especially long-term, remorseless physical affairs (where the betrayed spouse knows, and the cheating spouse KNOWS that they know, yet continues anyway) it's best to go immediately to the LRT or even the after-the-LRT.
I agree.
And once the LBS frees themselves of the emotional attachment and moves on with their life?
I agree that LRT is moving on. Whether or not the LBS verbally expresses that to the WAS or not, I think that's what is at this debate.
My philosophy is, words don't matter. Move on by moving on. Show it. DO IT. The WAS will do what they will, beyond that point.
And moving on is just being genuine. It doesn't mean being flirty in front of the WAS and not in front of others. Nor does it mean being frumpy in general and then being a seductress in front of the WAS.
If I am not M to my W, and she is just some woman on the street like any other, I am going to be who I am, regardless of what she does or how she interprets my behaviour.
