I relate very much to zig and Brit I guess because I see a lot of my H in theirs. I was advised by my DB coach to act like the OW and more recently to warm it up a bit with my H. ( I have had very little interaction with my H over the past 3 months).
Over the past year before DB there were moments ( this is all in hindsight), of him softening to me. But my relentless pursuit seems to have pushed him (too?) far.
I don't disagree with separating the addict at all. I mean this is all I was trying to do over the past year ( but in all the wrong ways). I truly want a CHNCE at R, I by no means think once she is out everything will be flowers.
I guess I just don't know how. Now that he is PA, he is no longer ' confused' about what he wants. He is now in the throes of honeymoon stage. How can you get an addict away from that?
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
