I don't want to hijack Forward's thread but I think much of this could apply to other's situations.
X is generally very controlling. She always was a bit but her control issues went into overdrive (or she stopped trying to restrain it). She had a pre-determined plan of how everything (finances, child custody, co-parenting, etc.) concerning our split and responded with mlc furled spew if there was any deviation.
X was born into a dysfunctional home that became broken. Both of her parents remarried, her mother to a new spouse that had kids if his own, the other to a spouse that bore him more children. X and her brother bounced back and forth between the two. One parent died when she was a teen and the other moved across the country. She finally moved in with her grandparents.
She stated her desire that if I marry it would be to someone with no children. She even restated in a recent discussion that was one of the reason she chose OMH as he has none and doesn't want any of his own. She has even suggested specific women with no children as potential dates to me. I never went out with any of them.
Insecurity? Fear? Repeating a pattern?
Of course any negative consequences of our D that have already occured or will occur in the future are totally my fault.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
