Just popping my head in....Zig knows my thoughts on a lot of this already but in terms of the debate on forceful action vs letting them come to you or standing still etc....
I've always said I don't want a partner I had to force to be with me. I want him to choose to want to be with me.
Like several other people have said not every idea works for every sitch. Take what you can learn from and leave the rest. No one on here is an expert. We're all just trying to figure out the best way to get by.
