I don't know really if it's "our job" to get through to them. Idk. I see my H just searching, searching. Not accepting what responsibilities he has taken on in this life and yet wanting inner peace. I really don't think that's something you can make a person come to terms with.
It's this "journey" idea.
It's so painful to watch them, but I know its painful for my H to watch me too. You wonder when it will ever end and we can go back to being happy and peaceful again. Then every once in a while you experience peace even amidst this clutter. And you want more of it.
But I'm sure there Is a time for meds too. My H thinks alcohol is a med!!!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway