you talk about boundaries? i believe i am learning for the first time in my life, albeit a little late, about what those mean.
and i have a boundary here: I am open to all discussion and interaction and am willing to partake in it wholeheartedly. but what i will not accept from anyone is outright derision.
Zig, if you don't see his going off and continuing to have a physical affair with another woman -- while knowing that you know about it -- as a HUGE problem, then I'm afraid there's nothing I can offer you. "Part of his path" ???
Puhleeze. I'm sorry, in my opinion that's just a bunch of hokum.
If that is not derision and scorn, then I don't know what is.
Zig,
I assumed that "this is part of the journey I'm on" was your cheating HUSBAND'S stance on his behavior -- not yours. So any derision was directed at him, not you. I apologize if you felt I was deriding YOU.
See, I don't believe in the whole MLC "this is the path I must walk" stuff. To me, "crap behavior is crap behavior," and should be dealt with as such. I don't believe that "MLC affairs" -- whatever those even are -- should be dealt with any differently than any other type of affair.
Yes, that is a decidedly different position than most on the MLC forum, and even many on this forum, but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm the only one who vocalizes it.
In any event, I'm sorry if my exasperation came across as deriding you or your struggle. I really do want you to succeed, and your husband to return to your family.
