Just remember that you and the children stay in the house.
Long drawn out talks have not worked for you in the past.
Your whole speech is of a needy man who has no plan.
It should be short.
You should prepare ahead of time before giving it. Ideally the day before the dancing.
Sort of along the lines of....
"I will no longer tolerate be involved in an open marriage"
or
"Wife. I have thought it over. This marriage no longer works for me. I will only be in a honest marriage with one man and one woman who respect each other."
Then you go quiet and leave. Come back a few hours later.
Next day if she goes dancing.
When she comes home. You serve her the papers.
"I have decided the children and I will remain in the home. I will remain in my bed. Nothing is to leave this house until decided upon by the courts."
That is how you get out of limbo.
She knows your boundary. She knows the outcome of her choice to test or disregard the boundary. She also knows the outcome if she respects the boundary.
This gives her the chance to work back into the marriage.
You need to know what you want on this as well.
No contact. No more dancing there. Counseling. etc..
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
