Hi Val,

I have not posted to you in a long time - I took some time off from the bb, but just spent some time catching up with your sitch and life in the last few months.

I just want to say that I admire your growth and strength. I wish I had that kind of insight when I was your age...

There is so much about the feelings that you share with us that resonate with me.

I still struggle with some of the same things as you - forgiveness and co-dependency. I have been focusing on these more intensely in the last few months. I am now going to CoDA - a 12 step program that has really helped me identify and deal with my issues more directly and clearly. I really would recommend attending a meeting if you can. They are all over the place and I am sure you could find one in SF.

As you very well know, the healing we are going thru takes time and you and I have now been on this rollercoaster for a while.

You know you have come such a long way from where you started so don't forget that. You are a source of inspiration for me.

I will keep checking back on your thread.

(((hugs)))


Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D