kml, I assume your last post was meant to be helpful, but to tell me to stop "horriblizing" really wasn't. This situation is horrible. I'm not going to smile at my boys and say that it isn't. And, no, I won't encourage my STBX to see the boys. Each time he has they come home upset, because he uses that time to justify why he had to leave, etc. etc. He also brags to them about all of the fun things he's doing. All they know is that he gives them windows of time when he is available if they want to do something. That's empty. They have every right to be hurt and angry. I have every right to be hurt and angry. It's part of healing. You've been here along time and I'm sure you have a lot of wisdom to share, so share it. I'm new at this and my emotions are raw. I just post how I feel at the moment. I'm looking for encouragement, not criticism.
