kml, regarding the ps, that's exactly what I thought. I would have thought that his attorney would have advised that no matter what do not move in with a girlfriend until the divorce is final. He's just given me more ammunition. There is no way I will allow him to take off with one of the boys. I have no idea where he is living or who with. He moved 30 minutes away. He clearly didn't consider what was best for the boys. I also can't believe that he would make yet another major life change and just announce it to S12 as if he were talking to a friend.