Needing some guidance... 5

[25yearsmlc]

wondering if what you always thought would be best for you and or, your family (which are usually the same, I hope)

might not be, is among the most terrifying questions we can come across.

Same goes for "is this person, the person I thought and or, who I need in my life?"

all I can say is that I hope somehow we/you can see those questions as opportunities for change, and growth.

You can exercise choice, which means you are a free woman.

You can empower yourself, so when you make a choice, you can embrace the responsibility that entails. After all, this is what YOU chose for your life and you

will make the most of it.

I hope that makes sense.

My main point is, I get what you are saying and it can be very disturbing.

As for his crisis of faith, at this time I'm not sure how big an issue it'll be in the long run.

He's in so much turmoil and he has to reconcile his self image with some actions he'd have condemned or judged, not too long ago. That's a lot going on.

I also don't know your religion. But I can tell you that when I saw my h's dog tags for the military saying "no preference" I was VERY upset (he's getting deployed with his reserve unit in a few weeks. NOT expecting that curve ball).

I asked him about it and he explained that his previous preference was for his mother's sake, but since she has died, and he has not officially joined my church (they were very similar and it wasn't an issue for us. Same sacraments, etc)

he felt I (ME) should decide how to bury him if something were to happen to him. I accepted that answer but my point is, I get what you are concerned about.

You made a comment about men leading the family spiritually. I understand your desire for that. Newsflash though...reality...Most families in America have mothers who attend church more and speak of religion more, than the fathers do.

ANYHOW let us know when you JOIN/SIGN UP for "X"...

hey how about skydiving?

Hey I'm serious!

I did it for my 50th and it sure makes an impression on you and your kids. And I loved it. I already did it a second time with my S26. He loved it too.

Just a suggestion!!