Here I go again on my own......

[Cadet]

it has been really difficult for me to deal with what I have very much learned is 14 year old behaviour from my W.

Kaffe what makes MLC so intersting and each sich different is that my wife is only 2.
That is the stage where you learn trust vs mistrust.

14 years old is Identity vs Inferiority.

Of course a 14 year old has much wilder behavior than a 2 year old, maybe.
But they are all stages of child development.

And I agree that even after you know WHY all you can do is pop the popcorn, pull up a chair and watch.