Well, it seems my H, or I guess I should start saying my STBX, has moved in with an OW. He sprang on my son today that he moved to save money. When my son asked where he moved and who he lives with he just said with a roommate and wouldn't expand on the details. I'm sure if it was a male friend he would have said that. It's a lot for my son to process. Just learning so casually that he had moved awhile ago and didn't bother to mention it before today and also that he moved to a city even further away is painful for my son. Honestly, I could care less where he lives. He'll be just as miserable.