Oh, My God - this is my first ever forum experience. I just read your comment to someone and you said you sleep in the same bed - so do I. There is an ow in my sitch - i hate knowing it- i am amazed you are surviving & going on - I am too and i am amazed too. It IS the hardest thing i ever did- not pursuing- not acting like i care - not freaking out. I am 1 year post discovery (for sure) of affair(s) - a cousin & an old secretary. I thought i would die - i didn't. I am taking heart that there are so many people out there in same boat- it's so easy for people to throw around advice & judgement when they're not in my shoes. I found mwd and her books- i do have some hope- i am not unrealistically optimistic- i'm just unwilling to go down without a fight for this 34 year relationship that was soooo good for sooo long- the book's description of mlc fits to a "t" - wish me luck.nero
