I just want to say i also have an attorney who is "not himself". I hate to give up on him also (after 34 years together). He thinks a relationship should be "fun" and if we're not having fun we are not in love. (we're not having fun because of him and his "problems" whatever those may be - he never just said he was melting down, tho i knew something was up with him- i had no idea it was an affair.) I was just trying to give him space and be a lovng companion. I'm doing same as you, trying to employ divorce busting, get a life technique- it's been a year - it's wierd as heck and i'm miserable all the time- but trying hard to do it & see. I can see he "turns off" when i try to talk about "it" all - he feels "bludgeoned" so i just don't. hardest thing i've ever done- have patience and keep hanging in there. i do not know how it will turn out- he thinks he needs to live and die alone- tho says i should not clear out of his life- ever wonder how it all got so jerky when it was soo good for soo long? we are together for a few weeks - then apart for a few- both are bad in different ways - i just wanted to say i share your pain - and wish you luck. i thought i might spontaneously die in the beginning- i didn't. that's got to be worth something. just make it thru another day- then try to sleep thru another nite. ta da
