... boundaries are a tricky thing with somebody in that frame of mind. Setting them can become more frustrating because you'll set yourself up for issues and it comes across as controlling. If you set them, put some thought into it first and make sure you can enforce them. Also, make sure they are for your sake only. You need boundaries, but you need to be sure they are about you only. Anything else is pointless IMHO.
Well said, AJ!
Ultimately, DB is DB and it's all the same.
The work is the same whether our spouse is MLC or WAS.
SBT is SBT is SBT.
Yet, MLC very assuredly is different than transition and different that WAS.
Just as piecing is different than non-piecing.
IMHO, boundaries with MLC is oil and water. They don't mix. And sometimes, it seems that if someone sets a clear, reasonable boundary, it's just a line the MLCer wants to figure out how to cross, because the LBS can't tell a MLCer what to do.
