All I can and want to add Kim, is it has been really difficult for me to deal with what I have very much learned is 14 year old behaviour from my W. That rebellious nature is so hard to deal with especially in it's passive/aggressive mannerisms. To have it show up in a mid life individual is just so... bizarre... and shocking... and ultimately frustrating as hell.
The late teen/early adult behaviours (party animal and "finding true love" stuff) is also tough. For me though, this is easier to "understand", if you will.
And as much as it is helpful to understand why... it still cannot resolve the frustrations that we feel over the behaviours.
