brit - thank you for your words. i don't literally see myself as empathetic - all i see is that i was one way before and i choose not to be that way any more.

I spent my whole life so self-focused , always looking to see what someone else was doing or saying to me. never was able to put myself in the other person's place and try to see what they were feeling.

it's hard to face up to that - and then to try to see it from someone else's point of view - that's like looking in the mirror and seeing some very very ugly images.

if that's empathy - i'm so happy to be there. can't help thinking that if i'd done even a little of that before, we wouldn't be where we are right now.

in my own defense - i did put myself in h's shoes - but only on some issues - and not the ones i truly needed to look at

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"