Where do I go from here?

[Hopeful84]

Thanks wont_stop, I will have to read up on your thread, because it does feel like a very unique,lonely situation we are in.

I noticed your status says "in my room" are you and your wife living in separate rooms too? We are, and its weird, although my husband is home to sleep here very much so its not that horrible.

He still wants to come spend time with me, like today he wants to go on a "date." To be honest, I am not really in the mood. I see what you mean, where its like we are kept here for our support and ability to keep the family and house going. Sometimes I do get frustrated and want to run, but I have no where to go, and we can't afford two places to live and I am really am just stuck here waiting for him to divorce me, which he won't, or for me to walk away and lose everything I have invested over the years. Its weird, because I feel like if I walk away, he wins-- he would get the house because I would be tired of fighting, he would get the dogs, and he would just move her in, in my place. So they would win, and I would lose. At least right now, I have my dogs to keep me company and my house as my turtle shell/sanctuary where I can keep to myself and work on my goal setting and getting a life. I hope things get better for you, I am sorry you are in this same horrible hell I am.