more turtles by my side...

[needgrace]

hi zig,

thanks again for your courage and honesty about the feelings you wrestle with..i often share them with you and am helped when you articulate them so well here...

thanks too as you have generated a great discussion about what is the most difficult decision (or series of decisions) we make while in the ditches ..how to handle contact and boundaries..

or really WHEN to do what...N/C,dim, dark, act as if, seduce them back, what would a friend do, flirt, end the conversation first, give them space, let them see your changes, let them see what it is like to miss us..and on and on...

i really like how you handled this week.. it seemed to me like H was in some turmoil and you just gave him space...i loved how you handled the last day... you sounded empowered and those seemed like healthy boundaries to me.

and I LOVE your empathy too.. i believe that self awareness, forgiveness, detachment and our own self confidence are all wrapped up together.. and i feel as if you have been growing in all... so that NO MATTER WHAT, you will be ok...that is the goal too, right?

please keep expressing all that you feel and struggle with.. it helps all of us. I am so so honored to be picnicking with you, zig, every day I grow just be hearing and sharing with you. (((((( ))))))