Alien Invasion...help

[Takevowsserious]

Hey RH,

I thought the "goth" look was for angry teens who feel like outcasts.

Someday, he will look back and be SO embarrassed. If he even remembers. Then again, he will have FB as a reminder!

Maybe a 180 for you is to be all gothed up next time he comes over. You could be cooking dinner and act like nothing is out of the ordinary. I don't know if I could do it without cracking up though!

[GALbaby]

Tvs...you are really bad...seriously. lol.

[GALbaby]

I think H needs to be on antidepressants. I'm sure it would help a lot. Not necessarily fix everything, I know. But he is seriously suffering all the symptoms.

[labug]

Hey RH,

I thought the "goth" look was for angry teens who feel like outcasts.

Someday, he will look back and be SO embarrassed. If he even remembers. Then again, he will have FB as a reminder!

Maybe a 180 for you is to be all gothed up next time he comes over. You could be cooking dinner and act like nothing is out of the ordinary. I don't know if I could do it without cracking up though!

I like that!

[reachingHigher]

You all are hilarious! H & I are both tall & skinny so it helps with "the look". That night he did that he got a LOT of attention from people that made him feel very uncomfortable. I don't think he expected that.

But that didn't stop him from dressing up like a pirate two weeks later at a party at a boat club. (I'm always so grateful when he tells me his plans AHEAD of time so I'm not totally shocked at the pics!)

I found his dewrag recently in his convertible car's glove box with the skulls all over it. Wouldn't wanna mess up his long hair in the wind. still ROTFL! Sorta.

[Takevowsserious]

Since depression is at the core of MLC, antidepressants may certainly help.

But apparently not as much as prancing around in skinny jeans.

I find the longer my H's MLC goes on, the more sarcastic and "bad" I get. Of course not around him, I'm too busy detaching and DB-ing.

I think of the scene in Jaws when the guy sees the shark rise up out of the water for the first time and says, "We're gonna need a bigger boat."

My sense of humor/sarcasm is my boat, and it keeps getting bigger.

Feel free to hop aboard anytime ladies, plenty of room for everyone!!!

[reachingHigher]

GAL baby, I'm sorry your H won't seek help. But sometimes IC's aren't great.

My H has been seeing one since October. When he explained the issues the first session she asked if he had ever heard of an "open marriage". She thought that could be a good solution!!

He said it would be good for him but he didn't want ME doing it.

So....maybe no counselor is better than a bad counselor? Idk.

Did you mention if he has any hobbies, I don't remember?

[Takevowsserious]

You make me laugh RH!

Goth stuff, pirate costume, do-rag... I know whose house I'm going to for a Halloween costume!

I am grateful that my H has not dressed crazy. He did buy a pair of Crocs out of the blue because he claimed they are "dressier" when wearing shorts.

Huh????

Keep the stories coming girls, and watch time fly by...

[GALbaby]

RH, he loves golf and surfing. Goes down to to the beach most days. He always comes home in a better mood. But I believe he needs additional help. Id like some ideas about how to get through to him. Maybe no-one will. Who knows.

[reachingHigher]

I don't know really if it's "our job" to get through to them. Idk. I see my H just searching, searching. Not accepting what responsibilities he has taken on in this life and yet wanting inner peace. I really don't think that's something you can make a person come to terms with.

It's this "journey" idea.

It's so painful to watch them, but I know its painful for my H to watch me too. You wonder when it will ever end and we can go back to being happy and peaceful again. Then every once in a while you experience peace even amidst this clutter. And you want more of it.

But I'm sure there Is a time for meds too. My H thinks alcohol is a med!!!