so tell me starsky - should i stop doing what works here? i don't see this trip as an indication that things are getting worse. i just see it as part of the path he is on.
Zig, if you don't see his going off and continuing to have a physical affair with another woman -- while knowing that you know about it -- as a HUGE problem, then I'm afraid there's nothing I can offer you. "Part of his path" ???
Puhleeze. I'm sorry, in my opinion that's just a bunch of hokum.
Humans are pretty basic, path-of-least-resistance creatures, especially us men. As long as your husband is getting his physical and many of his emotional needs met by another woman, and the rest of his emotional needs met by you when he comes come, I think you will find that he will never do anything to change the current situation. Why would he?
With one exception: OW could dump him. However, that usually leads to OW#2 if a man feels he can continue to get away with it.
