I keep hearing confusion being brought up and I'm not so sure it's confusing but maybe that's because I've been at this for a while.

As long as I am being true to myself and not allowing MY boundaries to be crossed, I'm good. The difficult part is figuring out those boundaries and being strong enough to state them and enforce them

No one can tell me what my boundaries are, that must come from me. I can't tell another person what their boundary should be.

Like all other advice here, take what you can use, leave the rest.

There are no experts here and I would guess that anything anyone might try has worked for someone.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss