I would love to see more men get their wives back. However, getting her back takes everything you've got. All the strength, resilience, courage, self control and gamesmanship you can imagine and more.
Most importantly, every single man I've seen get his wife back "manned up" and resolutely refused to get sucked into their drama. None of them tried the appeasement, enabling, groveling or supplicating route. Not one. They all took a very firm stand.
Things like this:
Originally Posted By: Denver-2010
Later that week, still mid-June, she asked me if I wanted to meet her for a drink. I was at home. I told her 'no', but that she could come to the house to have a drink and talk if she liked. For the 6 months that we were 'dating', she would refuse to come to our home bc she said it didn't feel like her home anymore and that she felt 'weird' there.
...and this:
Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
This time I insisted that it was the only way that I would agree to see her.
...and this:
Originally Posted By: Denver_2010
I told her that I was absolutely DONE with OM being her or step son's life at all. That I would no longer be nice about it. That if she would not take care of it, that I would.
This is how it's done fellas. You work on the things which drove your wives away, and if they're having an affair (99% of the time they are), this is how you handle it. Soft, gentle tones delivered without anger but very, very blunt and backed up by resolute action.
