Can you recommend a link or enlighten me again on why they're the opposite of what they were and why they are "pod people" now?
Biologically I believe they are the opposite because at midlife the hormones for men and women become the opposite of what they were during the years past puberty.
Another words in men testosterone decreases and estrogen increases. In women estrogen decreases and testosterone increases. This coupled with the depression and childhood issues throws them into crisis and being the opposite of who they were.