New to separation. Am I doing the right things?

[Arsene]

Hi roughenough,

"On another note, I still question if my W has had an affair, I have no proof and it does no good to worry about it. I think there’s a good chance she has but who knows. Since she took her ring off and decided to separate and go to bars every now and then, I just feel it’s a matter of time before there’s OM in the sitch. In a way I am preparing myself for the worst because it just feels and seems imminent. "

I know exactly how you feel, being in the same situation. It seems that I see or hear signs of OM whenever she says or does something. The way she avoids looking at me sometimes or little innocent things she says which don't sound like her. The new ring she started wearing on her middle finger which looks a lot like a wedding ring (but not mine). The thing is, I keep telling myself that OM wouldn't be the worst. In my book the worst has already happened. She left me. My family is broken. OM is just a possible symptom of this. Looking at it this way, I figure things can only get better. There are three possible outcomes.
1. I GAL and eventually get over her - I don't like this one but I figure that if I make it there my opinion will have to have changed.
2. We remain good friends and manage to provide a decent family life for our D8 - I'm not sure I'm crazy about this one either but it's still positive and better than where we are now.
3. We move past our broken marriage and rebuild healthy relationship which eventually leads to us behng together again as a family. - This is by far my favorite

When you've come so low, the only way left is up.