I didn't want to offend anyone. It's just that my wife shared a lot of details about our marriage on a couple of forums.
As I sad, she is affectionate and has a need for sex. I know most men apparently think about sex all the time. I don't. I'm not gay (she has wondered that more than once). It just isn't important to me. I told her that if she has a need that she should let me know and I wold try to meet her need. I know that was one of the issues that frustrated her before her affair. She grew up in a house with parents who gave her a lot of encouragement and admiration. I grew up in a house where you knew things were fine as long as my parents didn't complain or correct me. I am just not the kind to give a lot of verbal praise. I did try, and at times I really thought things were improving.
She talked a lot of about feeling invisible. She sometimes got very angry about the lack of physical in our marriage. I know it made her feel unattractive, though that was never an issue. After she told me about the affair, we did a lot of work. According to her, once things got okay after the affair, our marriage went back to just existing like room mates.
I want to be what she needs. I am not sure I can be. She said she wanted me to take charge and not ask her what to do all the time. But she is the one who knows what she needs. Now I am sitting here a week away from losing my wife for good. If there is anything I can do, I want to do it.
