W has been contacting both my brothers. She has started th process to drop the order of protection but it could be a few weeks. In the meantime she is worried about paying bills. I have always taken care of it. I cannot have any contact with her or go to the house so she is going to have to figure it out. I have shown her and she is pretty smart so I am confidant that she can do it. There is money in the bank and she has been paid. I am not sure what she expects me to do. My hands are really tied right now. I feel sad for her. She is reaching out for my help but I can't.
Correct thinking. Counter intuitive, but you have to let things continue on their natural course. You cannot be the backup plan, because she'll just do it again. Happened to a friend of mine in town 3 times, the third time he let her leave.
He was a steady and consistent provider, took care of her and she got off on a single person rampage.
