My W texted me in the morning and told me she found a house that she fell in love with. She then proceeded to ask if I would consider refinancing the house early or she could borrow from her half of my 401k. What? Seriously?!?!? That's something like what I would do for my W if I'm happily M'd, but not for a W who wants to D me. I called the L I'm thinking about bringing on board and she just confirmed the obvious.
I called her in response. First off, I asked her about the car she's selling. Then I told I was not going to give her the answer she wanted to hear. She wanted to know why. I simply told her I wasn't comfortable and all that stuff should be down on paper before we do anything with it. I then gave her an update on the L situation. I think she's pretty ticked I'm bringing a L on board.
We then got into a discussion about the D. We know there's a lot we agree on. But we are at an impasse right now about who does the transportation for S for the handoffs. She wanted to split it down the middle. I'm of the opinion that she made the decision to move 30 minutes away so she can do the lion's share of the driving. Am I being unreasonable here?
